Psychotherapy

Psychotherapy is a conversation between a client and a therapist that is focused on the client’s concerns.  There are many “schools” of psychotherapy, with more being added daily.

While you may want to consider a therapist’s approach, more important is the “fit” between you and your therapist.  Research has shown that the fit matters more than the approach.

My approach is first and foremost “client centered”.  What is it that you want?  If you want to examine the past, we can do so.  If you want a particular approach, most approaches can be done by anyone.  If the approach requires a particular expertise which I lack, I will tell you so.

Some therapists stress expertise.  I stress relationship.  If the fit and relationship is good, that is the strongest indicator of the probability of successful therapy.

If our therapeutic relationship works, if you feel listened to, heard, and understood, then there is much more that I can offer, but only if you are interested in it.

In our therapy session, you are the boss.  Some clients just want me to hear them, and they are not looking for feedback.  Others want very much to both be heard and to hear what I have learned from life, relationships, careers, and much more.

Some clients come to me already focused on a diagnosis.  While there may be some information in a diagnosis, there is actually very little.  It has been shown that multiple therapists can give the same client different diagnoses.

There is far more information to be had by dialogue, conversation that examines the details of your experience of your daily life. What are your thoughts and feelings about what happens to you at home, in school, at work, or wherever you may be?

If they are all happy and fulfilling, then you probably are not looking to see a therapist.  If there are some difficulties, then it is in the examination of the difficulties that we may find other, less painful ways forward for you.